Abuse (and abusers) come in many different shades, shapes, and sizes but there is one thing which is almost always unanimous: abuse is surrounded by silence. People don’t like to talk about abuse (emotional, physical, and/or sexual); it’s dirty and scary and it shouldn’t exist. The abusers don’t want anyone to know about their horrible behaviour and the victims are too terrified and embarrassed to admit the truth. This is particularly acute since many times the victim can’t even admit the truth to herself (and, in rarer cases, himself). What so many people don’t understand is how damaging this silence is. This very silence is what perpetuates this abuse to continue. This silence is what keeps victims from recognizing initial signs of abuse before it escalates. This silence is what allows abusers to retain their power and control over their victims.
THIS SILENCE NEEDS TO END.
I was abused for years and I’m tired of the silence. I’m tired of being afraid. I’m one of the lucky ones who got out in time. I’ve been abuse free for years but it’s still something I deal with daily. It never goes away. It gets easier and better with time and love for yourself, but it’s always there. This is why it’s so important to educate others, talk about abuse, and hopefully help others from falling into the abusive trap.
I AM NO LONGER SILENT.
I AM NO LONGER AFRAID.
I AM A SURVIVOR.
TOGETHER, WE CAN END ABUSE.
Know the signs:
And, if you find yourself in an abusive relationship, know that you’re strong enough to survive and you can leave the situation. You can have a good life again.